I have been thinking about racism towards Asian people a lot this week. I have debated whether or not to post this. Being a white woman, do I even have a right to be posting about this? @themommingworker, a mom in a similar situation to me, encouraged me to put my thoughts out there. You see, I may be a white woman, but the 4 most important people in my life are Asian. My family is Asian. I remember the first summer my husband and I started dating, he took me to a fancy restaurant in our town. An older couple walked in and saw us sitting there holding hands waiting; they gave us a dirty look, looked at each other, and walked out of the restaurant. This was the first time I had even thought about us being an interracial couple and that people may not “approve” of us. There have been times in stores when people will give us attitude for no reason and my husband has assumed it’s because he is Asian. If I’m being honest, in the past I have brushed this off and told him that they were probably having a bad day and it had nothing to do with him. When I think about it more though, my husband’s knee jerk reaction of assuming it’s about how he looks is because he has grown up experiencing people disliking him for his race. Growing up Jewish in a not very diverse town, I am no stranger to being judged and even disliked for my heritage. It breaks my heart to think that my girls will experience this one day. We talk with them a lot about being kind and fair to everyone no matter what they look like. I wish we were raising our kids in a world that embraced and celebrated differences rather than fearing and hating them. We will continue to teach our kids to be accepting of others and will do our best to help them through processing if they experience racism. If any of you have found any resources for parents about Anti Asian Racism, I would love for you you to share them with me.
April 12, 2021